More thoughts on registering

There are so many do’s and don’ts of wedding registries!  I feel like our registry is a bit unconventional compared to those of my friends and family who got married  few years ago.  I wouldn’t be surprised if there were a few raised eyebrows at our registry.  As I mentioned before, we chose to register at Crate & Barrel because we love the furniture from there.  There are also tons of kitchen gadgets that I love to drool over as well.

Registries have evolved from containing all the items that you would need to set up your first house over the years.  As people are choosing to get married later those needs change and you can register for camping gear or touristy things to do on your honeymoon – a pretty cool idea!

I’ve read threads on boards entitled, “Would you be offended if you saw this on a registry?”  I hope people won’t be offended with ours, and truthfully we don’t imagine that people would buy us a chair or a table.  If we wind up purchasing our big ticket items off of our registry after the wedding that is okay with us. 

Here are the top pieces of advice I gathered from wedding etiquette sites and it really helped to solidify our choices:

• Don’t feel uncomfortable about opening a registry. They’re an established tradition and a convenience guests can use or not. Registries show consideration for guests’ time and budget, and help them avoid the stress of choosing an appropriate gift. (Source)
• Do request non-traditional items if they reflect you as a couple. (Source)
• You should be registering for gifts you'll both enjoy in your future life together. To decide on what you need, take inventory of the things you already have, talk about the style of home you'd both like. (Source)

And absolutely not to be forgotten.

• Don’t reference your registry info on any stationery, such as your save the date or invitation. (Source)
• And of course it goes without saying, thank you notes need to be sent promptly!

How did you decide what to register for?